Афективна везаност и успешност партнерског односа: медијациона улога праштања

Kristina M. Ranđelović; Nikola Goljović; Nataša Mladenović

doi:10.5937/zrffp51-30943

Kristina M. Ranđelović Univerzitet u Prištini sa privremenim sedištem u Kosovskoj Mitrovici, Katedra za psihologiju
Nikola Goljović Univerzitet u Nišu, Filozofski fakultet, Psihologija
Nataša Mladenović Univerzitet u Prištini sa privremenim sedištem u Kosovskoj Mitrovici, Učiteljski fakultet u Prizrenu sa privremenim sedištem u Leposaviću

DOI: https://doi.org/10.5937/zrffp51-30943

Ključne reči: афективна везаност, успешност партнерског односа, праштање, стратегије праштања

Sažetak

Успех у партнерским односима се огледа у способности јединке да привуче и задржи партнера. Спремност за опроштај доприноси обнављању и унапређењу нарушених односа, док афективна везаност игра важну улогу у формирању унутрашњих „радних модела“ који служе као „водичи“ за формирање нових веза. Циљ рада био је испитати да ли постоји повезаност између афективне везаности и успеха у одржавању партнерске везе, и ако постоји да ли је та веза директна или посредована капацитетом за праштање. На основу добијених резултата анализе вишеструке медијације добили смо да недовољно труда у процесу налажења партнера није директно повезано са избегавањем, односно негативним радним моделом других, већ се та веза у овом случају остварује посредно преко стратегије избегавања праштања. Узорак коришћен у истраживању је пригодан и сачињавају га 387 испитаника, од чега је 82,7% испитаника женског пола старости од 18 до 40 (AS=23,90; SD=4,22). Од инструмената коришћени су: Упитник за мерење уложеног напора у налажење партнера (Apostolou et al., 2018), Упитник за мерење избирљивости при тражењу партнера (Apostolou et al., 2018), Упитник за мерење успешности у налажењу партнера (Apostolou et al., 2018), Упитник за процењивање тенденција праштања (McCullough, Root & Cohen, 2006) и Упитник за процењивање партнерске афективне везаности (Brenan, Clark & Shaver, 1995). Добијени резултати показују да недовољно труда у процесу налажења партнера није директно повезано са избегавањем, већ се та веза у овом случају остварује посредно преко стратегије избегавања праштања (ab=-,043, [-,077, –,017]). Када је у питању веза између труда и анксиозности, она је посредована димензијом освете (ab=-,051, [-,080, -,026]). Избегавање праштања показало се као статистички значајан медијатор и у односу између неуспешности проналажења партнера и избегавања (ab=-,029, [-,052, -,010]). Све добијене медијације су делимичне. Ово истраживање показује да успех у одржавању партнерске везе, избирљивост приликом тражења партнера и труд који се улаже да се веза започне и одржи у великој мери прате емоционални развој особе: њено виђење себе, виђење других и емоционалне капацитете који су током живота развили, као што је тенденција ка праштању. Налази овог истраживања били би много вреднији уколико би се истраживање вршило на оба партнера у вези и уколико би ситуација на коју се односи праштање држана под контролом, што је препорука за будућа истраживања.

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